Do you ever have to change your thinking about something because new information about it causes you to reconsider? This kind of thing happens to me often.
Recently, I contacted a yard treatment company for an additional application for my yard. The price for the work seemed much higher than the quote I was given a few weeks earlier. I texted them back and told them the original quote on the work was $70.00, not the $100.00 they quoted. Let’s stop right here for a moment and see how the new information affected me. How do you respond when the information you receive is counter to what you have been thinking is correct?
Trustworthiness is the first thing I look for in a company. Some bad experiences have caused my unconscious thinking to be a bit skeptical until I believe I can trust what I am told by the company. Thus far, the work by this group had been very acceptable, but this new quote raised a suspicion that I might be getting ‘bamboozled.”
Then, I did something I should have done before responding to the quote. I went to my notes on our initial conversation to verify that I was correct. What I discovered was that I had conflated different parts of our discussion. My thinking was wrong and I acted on wrong thinking. There it was in my notes; the cost for the application was $120.00, not the $100.00 they quoted.
What did they think about me? Did they think I was trying to get a better price? A cheap person trying to cheat them? Well, I wrote a quick text apologizing for my misunderstanding and told them I would be getting back to them concerning the work.
You probably have stories of how you were on one side of a situation where you or the other person were acting from wrong information. How did the issue get resolved? Or, did it ever get resolved? How did your feelings change once you got better information?
What am I getting at with this story? I want you to consider how the truth underlying my simple story can have profound effects on the most important relationships in your life. The truth is: your thinking will determine the way you act toward God, your spouse, your children, etc.. Actions follow thinking. I will attempt to share more specifics about this in the weeks ahead. In the meantime, consider how this idea is working in different areas of your life.
Since the way we think is so crucial in how we act, let me offer a few pieces of advice for all of us.
- Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger. James 1:19.
- Don’t jump to conclusions.
- Consider the possibility you don’t have all the facts.
- 4.Hold yourself accountable for how you think and how you act.