You and Your child’s Sense of Self (part four)

Do you feel you were unconditionally accepted by your parents? If so, how has that sense of being loved blessed you and freed you to be yourself? If not, how has that lack of acceptance troubled or hindered you? In my practice as a therapist through the years I saw how many adults struggled to […]

You and Your Child’s Sense of Self (part three)

Can your child be who God made him to be and still be loved by you? Accepting your child unconditionally is a major ingredient in his healthy view of himself. But to accept your child unconditionally isn’t as easy as it may seem on the surface. What does it mean to accept your child unconditionally? […]

You and Your Child’s Sense of Self (part two)

What if someone treated you the way you treat your child? Would you feel happy, angry, disappointed, important or encouraged?  This question is a reminder that our words and actions have a powerful effect on our child. To a large degree your child’s sense of himself comes from his interpretation of your words and actions […]

You and Your Child’s Sense of Self

The last several blogs I have done have dealt with two major factors influencing your child’s sense of himself; his physical self and sense of accomplishment and defeat. The third and most important factor in your child’s personal sense of value is how significant others, especially you, view him. This is an awesome privilege and […]

Accomplishment and You Child’s Sense of Self

The last several blogs have been concerned with how one’s view of his physical body affects his sense of self. You may want to read those entries if you have not already done so. Another important aspect of your child’s sense of himself is how he views what he does in school, sports, music, relationships […]

Is Beauty Enough?

Another important facet of the relationship between our sense of self worth and our body is personal attractiveness. Our superficial society is strongly invested in outward beauty. To be beautiful or handsome is “good” and to not be”blessed” with good looks is not so good. We have been so indoctrinated by this value system that […]

Hindering Your Child’s Development?

One of the interesting things I’ve observed is that our fears can unwittingly hinder our child’s physical development. This in turn, can work against his confidence and positive view of himself. Let me explain. Several years ago Joey, about ten, was brought to me because he had almost become paralyzed by his fear of bugs. […]

Your Child’s Body Image

A major factor in how your child learns to think about himself is how he learns to think about his body and physical functions. Your child is a spirit or soul with a physical body. His view of his body will play an important role in how he cares for his body. His general appearance, […]

The Cornerstone of Your Child’s Emotional Health

When our son Nathan was small his mom would often ask him this question,”If all the little boys in the world lined up and I got to pick out anyone I wanted do you know who I would choose?” I can still hear his giggling, happy “me” in response to her question. This was just […]

A “Knowing” Kind of Love

How can you really love someone without knowing them? If the ultimate goal of love is to do what is in their best interest, how can you love someone without knowing them? I believe you can have an attitude of acceptance and tolerance about  people which could be interpreted as love. However, loving someone as […]