The Power of an Apology

Let’s face it, we are not perfect and we aren’t going to be perfect parents. That means we are going to make mistakes; do and say things we shouldn’t say and do to our kids. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to be the best parent we can be. No, our child needs and deserves […]

Own Your Stuff

One of the greatest challenges of human relationships is to keep our personal stuff from creating unnecessary issues. For example, if you are person who always needs to be in charge, you can make others uncomfortable with your need to control or have things your way. If we refuse to recognize and deal with our […]

The Potential You

Successful parenting starts with you, the parent. Your character, who you are deep inside determines what you will value most and how you will live. Character also determines the kind of parent you will be. So, who are you? What values are at the core of your being? Are you kind and gentle? Selfish, arrogant […]

Where Does Good Parenting Begin?

Where does “successful” parenting begin? Does it begin at the birth of a child? No, having a child makes you a parent but it doesn’t make you a good one. Does it begin with reading books on child development or parenting strategies or techniques? While this can prove helpful, good parenting must begin somewhere else. Good […]

Parenting’s North Star

Have you ever tried to work a box puzzle without the box top to guide you? Have you tried to go somewhere you haven’t been before without a GPS,  map or good directions to help you? Frustrating isn’t it? Many things we do in life require some amount of direction to ensure a chance at […]

What is Parenting About?

What is Parenting About?     Perhaps the most central question we need to ask ourselves as parents is: “What is parenting really about?” In other words, what is the main role or central purpose I, the parent, need to fulfill in relation to this child that has been entrusted to me? Unfortunately, for some […]

How to Build Trust (part ten)

It’s a wonderful thing to be in a marriage where you trust your partner. Such trust builds security and hope, diminishes anxiety and fear and makes the challenges of family life much easier to deal with. In my previous blogs I have dealt with the importance of trust and many situations which present us with […]

The Trust Factor (part nine)

One of the most important areas in which trust is built or destroyed in marriage is how you deal with your children. Having children, for most couples, is the easy part. Rearing those children to become healthy, responsible people is not so easy. Let’s face it; children are expensive and can be a lot of […]

The Trust Factor: (part eight)

How do you handle responsibility? The way in which you keep your word and do, or neglect to do, what you are supposed to do affects trust in your marriage. One word that aptly describes the idea I’m getting at is dependability. This is not so much about deliberately lying or misleading your spouse but […]

The Trust Factor: Marriage (part seven)

Another important factor in building trust in your marriage is being truthful about ordinary, everyday things in life. Mary Ann asks John, “Did you make the bank deposit today?” John hesitates for a moment but responds from the other room in an irritable tone, “Yes, Mary Ann, I made the deposit.” Opening the site to […]